Who Pays For What?
Working out a budget for your wedding is one of the first things that should be done, once the date is set. Will the ceremony be formal, semiformal or informal? A formal wedding, of course, will be the most expensive and the informal, the least. Nothing is set in concrete.
Fortunately for parents blessed with daughters, unlike a decade ago, the lines are no longer rigidly drawn. The modern trend is for the families of the bride and groom to share the expenses involved in a wedding, so that the bride’s parents are not lumbered with the full amount. Also, with many couples marrying later and having money of their own, they are sharing in the expenses.
There are no longer any hard and fast rules as to “Who Pays for What”, but a general guideline follows as to the usual payment arrangements.
The bride (and/or her family) pays for:
- invitations and all wedding stationery for church and reception
- bride’s and bridesmaids’ dresses and accessories
- flowers for the church and reception
- all reception costs, music, etc. (excluding drinks, barmen and related expenses)
- wedding cake.
The groom (and/or he’s family) pay for:
- legal expenses (e.g.: antenuptial contract)
- ceremony expenses (marriage officer’s fee, organist, soloist, tips, etc.)
- bride’s and bridesmaids’ bouquets
- buttonholes and corsages for the wedding party
- hiring of clothes for himself and best man (if necessary)
- gifts for the bridesmaids and best man
- drinks at the reception and related expenses, i.e hiring of barmen,
- hiring of glasses, etc.
- transport for the bride to the church and reception
- wedding night accommodation and the honeymoon.